Become a Better Man – Decide to Live Your Dream


When we were kids, we had dreams of cool and exciting stuff we wanted to do when we grew up. We wrote many English composition in secondary school on “What I would like to be in future”

But something happens when we became adults, we become cynical and start thinking big adventures aren’t prudent, reasonable and affordable. We said we’re too busy to do anything extraordinary and we were surrounded by ordinary people who aren’t doing anything special either. So we settle and stick with doing what’s safe, we settle for less instead of asking for more. We gave up on our dreams and start to exist instead of living and we fit into the mould instead of breaking the containment. Ultimately, we give up on our dreams and live an ordinary, boring, going-nowhere, NFA – (no future ambition) lives.

The question is how did we resolve that there is something better than those dreams? The answer is we woke up and stopped dreaming, we told ourselves – “oh, that was just a dream” and we abandoned who we were and embraced who we are told we are. So, today I say “wake up from your slumber and dream again” because what we had was not just a dream, rather we were time travelling into our future. It was:

  1. A purpose
  2. The reason we are here
  3. Our lives
  4. Our future
  5. Our goal

No matter how deeply we bury our dreams, their carcass and their ghosts of regret over their demise will still come bubbling to the surface. I am convinced that all men are made for adventure. And when there’s no adventure in our lives, a little part of us dies. If you feel like you’ve been in a rut or that you’ve become too boring, a DECISION is the first step to adding a little more excitement back into your life. A quality DECISION is the one KEY that will open the road map to a life of adventure and fulfilment for you.

In order to succeed, how you see yourselves have to fundamentally change because the DECISION to live again will start to disconnect you from your environment and relationships and you will find yourself looking out over the edge of a cliff. You will be terrified of what might happen if you allow yourself to go there. Will everything fall apart? You will be tempted to turn around and go back to the lie you’ve been living. But No, not this time! This time is different because you’ve caught on to the fact that there’s really nothing behind you and going back would be more painful than the unknown future—no matter what that might be.

HERE ARE 10 DOORS THAT THE DECISION KEY WILL OPEN FOR YOU

  1. You will see your dream everywhere.

“Our eyes only see and our ears only hear what our brain is looking for.”  —Dan Sullivan

Once you commit to living your dreams, the lids blinding your eyes will be lifted. A completely new world will be opened to your view. You will notice opportunities that have been in your reach all along, the ones your conscious mind simply didn’t pay heed to. Your selective attention will zoom-in on what you want in microscopic detail. The fundamental change taking place is your self-identity and once this shift has happened, your whole world will change. Nothing becomes impossible to you. Your only limitations are your consciousness, which is quickly expanding.

  1. You will have boundless energy, fueled by purpose.

After you’ve crossed the threshold of decision, you will find a new wellspring of infinite energy and you will no longer need to rely on willpower. You will move beyond will to why and your internal resolve and zeal will trump your external stimuli—no matter how difficult.

  1. You will learn, grow and understand quickly.

Once you’ve made the leap, you’ll have a thirst for knowledge, wisdom and understanding like a sponge, soaking up everything you can, creating loads of neural connections and schematic networks. With enhanced consciousness, time will slow down for you and you’ll see things in slow motion mode than others. You will teach and share abundantly. You will experience far more joy seeing others benefiting from your teaching than by experiencing success yourself

  1. You will realise all of your previous fears were unfounded.

Theory and experience are two completely different things. When you fully commit to your decision, in your mind, you already are where you plan to be. So you don’t worry about it anymore. You see fears as part of the process, as a signal you’re moving in the right direction.

  1. You will stop worrying about—and instead anticipate—the future.

Once you’ve made your decision, you have nothing to worry about because you are in creation mode. You are no longer chasing happiness. You know success is inevitable because you’re in alignment. Every day your external world more closely matches your internal reality. As Dan Sullivan said, “You can have everything you love in life as long as you give up what you hate.”

  1. All of your needs will be met

Beyond your point of no return, blessings become your norm. All of your needs are met, the right people will come into your life, you will have enough time and money to get moving. You have become a vector for everything you need to accomplish your task.

  1. People will enter your life to help you.

“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”  —Unknown

When you are on a dedicated mission, people will come to your aid to help you make it real. You will find Mentors who will teach you and radically accelerate your progress. Haters (these are just as necessary as the others who enter your life). Your relationships are by far the most important aspect of your journey. You will begin attracting the right people in your life when you start doing the work.

  1. You will have bouts of doubt, but they won’t last long.

Living your dreams is not a “cheap experience.” It is supposed to require some effort, something from the depths of your soul. Growing in consciousness and progressing as a human being is intended to challenge you to the core. From time to time, doubts will creep in and you will question everything about yourself and what you’re doing. Remember, “A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.”

  1. You will feel inclined to do things you never considered before.

You are no longer rigid in your thinking. You’re open to whatever you feel inspired to do, even if—in the moment—it feels extremely uncomfortable. You no longer operate based on how you are feeling in the moment. The more open you become, the more you find yourself in places you never thought you’d be. But you don’t question why, you just keep going. Along the way, you “connect the dots looking backward.”

  1. You will see past the broken approaches most people take.

Most people haven’t committed to what they feel they should be doing, so they remain unaware of who they are, what they stand for and who they are becoming. They live in fear and confusion, simply waiting to be told what to do. Even worse, most people will go against their own values to fit in with the crowd. But when you’re liberated from conformity, you quickly discern more effective and efficient approaches.

In conclusion, when you commit to living intentionally, when you make a decision to live your Dream Live;

IT WILL BE YOU LIVING THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAM

 

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BECOME A BETTER MAN – 5 (FIND A MENTOR)


Figuring out what it means to be a man can be tough especially tougher for men today because,

  • Men are often more socially isolated; they don’t have as many friends.
  • Men don’t have strong relationships with their fathers and other male relatives.
  • The epidemic of fatherlessness or absentee fathers

Unfortunately, two generations of men went without mentors growing up. So, without good examples of men to emulate, young men often get a bit lost leading to poor perform in school or getting involved in crime. It’s therefore more important than ever for every man to seek out mentors to help him navigate the complicated waters of manliness and life. So having a mentor is quite important. The tricky part is, how do you find one? Here’s a suggested road map.

  1. Determine what sort of mentor you’re looking for. We all have different facets of our lives. Work, school, spirituality, family, etc. Ask yourself what area of your life needs improvement and could benefit from a mentor. Even if you’re just looking for a mentor to help you be an all-around better man.
  1. Draw up a list of three men that you’d like to mentor you. Think of all the men you know that you’ve always looked up to or admired and wish you had a better relationship with. If you’re looking for a mentor to help you be an overall better man, simply think of the men you know and admire. Also, don’t stick with men that are exactly like you. If two people are the same, one of them is irrelevant. One of the benefits of a mentor is that they can help expand your point of view.
  1. Write down how each mentor could help you grow as a man. Think of the traits each man has that you wish to learn. Do some research on them. Do they come from a similar background as you, have unique experiences that can broaden your conception and understanding of success in a particular area of your life, have they had any setbacks similar to yours? What is it exactly about this person that makes you want him to be your mentor?
  1. Figure out what you expect from the mentor relationship. Before you ask someone to be your mentor, you need to know what he should expect from the relationship. How often would you like to meet with him? How do you want the mentoring to take place? A discussion over lunch? Email? A monthly phone call? When you’re deciding this, take into account the men you’re asking to be your mentor and what will work for them.
  1. Ask the first man on your list. After you’ve done all your prep work, it’s time to ask. Call, email, or a write a letter to do the asking depending on each person. Tell your prospective mentor that you’re looking for a mentor in a specific area of your life and that you think he’d be a good one and tell him why. People love to be praised!
  1. Expect rejection. Don’t’ get discouraged and don’t take it personally if people say no. People are busy these days, and they just might not have time to be a mentor. If the first man says no, go on to the second.
  1. Say “thank you.” No matter if you get a no or a yes, be sure to thank the person. Mentoring is a privilege and not a right.

Become a Mentor too!

Just as you need man mentors, so too do other men. No one needs guidance in the art of manliness more than boys and young men, who are trying to figure how to become worthy men. Every man should make mentoring a part of his life.

Here are just a few ways to do that:

  1. Become a Scout leader. Boy Scout troops always need volunteers who are eager to make a difference in boys’ lives.

2. Become a Big Brother. A lot of young men out there are growing up without a positive father figure in their lives. Be the man these boys can turn to and emulate as they grow up.

3. Volunteer with your church’s youth group. Lucky is the young man can find a man who is both an older friend and a spiritual mentor.

4. Get to know your kids’ friends. I guess some kids try to hide from adults, but if they’re game, it’s okay to hang out with them from time to time. Take your son and his friends fishing or hunting.